How to Support a Victim of Sexual Assault

 When someone you know has been sexually assaulted, it can be difficult to know what to say or do. Oftentimes, the best thing you can do is to just make yourself available. It's also important to actively listen to what they have to say if they want to talk.

Strive to be supportive and nonjudgmental and assure them that you believe them. It's also important to remind your loved one that what happened was not their fault and that they didn't do anything to deserve what happened to them. Oftentimes, survivors of sexual assault will blame themselves for what happened.

You also should let them know that you're sorry this happened to them. By doing so, you are demonstrating that you empathize with their situation and are able to acknowledge how the assault has impacted their lives.

Finally, remind them that they are not alone and that if they need your support, you will be there for them. Here are some additional ways you can support a victim of sexual assault.

Remain Calm

It's normal to feel outraged or even shocked by what your friend or family member has experienced, but expressing these emotions may cause your loved one to experience more pain or even confusion. Listen to what your loved one has to say without having any large, emotional outbursts.

Also, refrain from making threats against the perpetrator. While it may feel like you are being supportive, these types of comments can just add more stress to the situation.

Ask Permission

Most people want to reach out and hug the person who has been assaulted. But it's important to remember that this person may not want to be touched. As a result, be sure you ask permission before hugging your friend or family member.

You also should refrain from putting your hand on their arm or holding their hands until you ask permission. Simply asking "Can I give you a hug?" goes a long way in re-establishing your loved one's sense of safety and control.

Then, if your friend declines, respect that decision. Never try to force your loved one to hug you. This violates their sense of autonomy and takes away their control.

Empower Your Loved One

Remember, when your friend or family member was assaulted, they were stripped of their control in the situation. For this reason, you want to empower them to make decisions about what steps to take next. Avoid giving too much advice or trying to fix the situation. Instead, if they want to get a medical exam or report the incident to the appropriate authorities. offer to go with them.

Do not pressure them into taking steps they are not ready for. As much as you want justice, your loved one needs to decide what steps to take and when.

Maintain Confidentiality

Remember, this sexual assault is not your story to tell. So, do not share the details of your loved one's experience without permission. Let the victim decide who to tell about the assault.

Most victims of sexual assault struggle with a great deal of shame and embarrassment. Sharing the details of the victim's experience with others will just deepen those wounds. Allow your loved one the opportunity to decide who knows what happened.

Source: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-support-a-victim-of-sexual-assault-4783541